There are things you do for yourself, things you do with your partner, and things you do long after the sex is over when you're alone and centering yourself.
It's important to have a post-sex routine, though, not just for your emotional, physical, and mental health, but also because your routine can make you enjoy sex even more.
Yes, for really real!
Take a look.
1. Use the Bathroom, but Only if You Really Need to
Peeing after sex is healthy, mainly because doing so can help rinse out the va-jay-jay (sorry, stalkers, I'm a Miranda Bailey fan) and keep your lovely area free of bacteria, which will also keep the UTIs at bay. You shouldn't force yourself to pee, though. Wait until you actually need to go because forcing it is painful and unnecessary.
2. Pay Attention to How You Feel
What I mean is that you need to pay attention to any discomfort you feel. Know what's normal and what's not normal.
For example, it's not uncommon to feel some pain if you're a little dry or if you're ovulating, but you shouldn't feel pain or discomfort every time you have sex.
3. Recap What Just Happened
Think about it to yourself first. Think about everything – what you enjoyed, what you didn't enjoy, what you want to do again, what you want to avoid forever. Afterward, recap with your partner, too. S/he needs to know what you like.
4. Talk to Your Partner
In fact, talking to your partner is one of the most important things you can do after sex – unless that's not your thing. That's okay, too.
5. Cuddle – after You Pee
I mean, if you had to pee in the first place. Cuddling is a great way to enhance intimacy, however, and the afterglow is pretty wonderful
6. Keep Touching Her/him
You don't have to stop touching each other just because you got off.
Again, if you want to. It's a good time for it, it can help you relax, and if you're … you know, sticky or covered in syrup or something, a shower will feel great.
8. Make a Snack Together
You just burned a bunch of calories. Have a snack! Eat a cookie!
9. Maybe Take a Nap Together
You also just burned a lot of energy. Feel free to doze a little. You earned it – and it's perfectly normal to feel sleepy after sex.
10. Compliment Your Partner
Let her/him know how much you loved being together. Compliment her kisses or the way he held you when he entered you.
11. Pay Attention to Any Pain You Feel
I know we kind of already covered this, but it bears repeating. You need to be aware of any pain, or any other feelings you're not used to experiencing.
12. Discuss the Good and the Bad
It may take you a while to reach this stage of your relationship or it may not. Either way, if you don't communicate about what you love and what you hate, you'll never get everything you want.
13. Seriously, Though, Talk about What You Didn't like
For real, this is crucial. No one should ever feel like they have to experience something they don't like. You do not have to do things you don't like.
14. Discuss the Future
This might not come up. It might never come up. But if your partner is someone you envision a future with, have this conversation after sex. It can really open up your eyes.
15. Laugh Together
The couple who laughs together generally has phenomenal sex together.
16. Clean up the Sheets Together
Well. That wet spot.
17. Do It Again
Do it as many times as you want!