Reading up on this subject as well as talking to the men in your life will reveal a lot of secrets. Understanding the differences between the two of you can help you have more harmony in your relationship.
1. Men Compartmentalize Areas of Their Life
Women can and do think about many things at one time. You can be thinking about a situation at work, what you’re wearing out on a date and the fight you had with your sister all at the same time. Men generally don’t do this. They tend to think about one thing at a time.
They compartmentalize their thoughts rather than thinking in a jumbled manner like women do. Neither is better than the other, just different.
2. Men Often Speak through Actions
While there’re always exceptions, men usually aren’t flowery with their words. A man will tell his girlfriend or wife that he loves her but rather than expand on how much that is, he’ll show her through his actions. This’s because actions mean more to him than words. He would rather show you than tell you because he believes it means more. This’s important to remember in a relationship.
3. Men Have a Different Time Frame than Women
Men work on different time frames than women do. They generally think longer about how they feel before speaking their mind. Women, on the other hand, often speak quickly about what they’re thinking and feeling. Men are generally more patient in situations like job searching and waiting to hear from a friend. There’re advantages to both the feminine and masculine approach to situations.
4. Men Need Time to Process Their Thoughts and Feelings
You likely know exactly how you feel right away. While you still find it unpleasant to argue, you can see an argument through to the end. Your man may argue for a small amount of time and then leave the argument. He’s trying to get some space so he can process his thoughts and feelings. Understanding this can help you not to feel hurt when he exits the situation. Give him the time he needs to think and he’ll be ready to discuss the situation with you.
5. Men Have the Ability to Think about Nothing
Have you ever asked your man what he was thinking about only to be told nothing? When this happens, we usually think they just don’t want to tell us what they’re thinking. Nope. When he says he’s thinking about nothing that’s exactly what he means. Men truly have the ability to zone out and not think. Don’t you envy them for this ability?!
6. Men Think with Logic Instead of Emotion
For us, reasoning and emotion are interconnected. Sometimes it’s difficult to think clearly because we have such strong feelings. But men aren’t this way. They can push their feelings to the side to use logic. Of course they have feelings but theirs don’t scream to be expressed as loudly as ours do.
7. Respect is a Big Deal to Men
If you want to know how much your respect matters to your man, ask him. You may be surprised by how strongly he wants respect. No one wants to be disrespected or should be treated that way but it’s a huge deal to a guy. This took me years to realize. Reading up on the importance of respect to a man can be eye-opening.
